Tuesday, 28 June 2011
Saturday, 18 June 2011
My Beloved Wife.
Or her beautiful bright eyes?
Does her long gorgeous hair make her sexy?
Or is it her cute little cheeks?
Is it her intelligence that makes her sexy?
Or her amazing creativity?
Does her ambition make her sexy?
Or is it her caring?
Is it her irresistible lips that make her sexy?
Or her skin that's smooth as silk?
Does her sensuous back make her sexy?
Or is it her strong shoulders?
Is it her incredible kisses that make her sexy?
Or her warming hugs?
Does her soft caress make her sexy?
Or is it her frisky little pinches?
Is it her squeezable butt that makes her sexy?
Or her success?
Does her love make her sexy?
Or is it just her presence?
No,none of these make her sexy.
But she is sexy because of all of them.
She is sexy because she is wonderful.
She is sexy because I love her.
She is sexy because that is what she is.
Saturday, 4 June 2011
CALL ME A TIGER WIFE.Marriage has turned me into a fierce creature, especially when it comes to monitoring what he eats. Mostly, I nag because I care for him and want what's good for him.
I'd always thought that if and when I ever got married, I'd be the PERFECT WIFE. The perfect docile wife, that is. I'm ordinarily quite even-natured, so I'd imagined myself as easy-going and relaxed with my husband, always ready with a smile and an encouraging word. Not that I'd be at his every beck and call, of course. No,no, this is the 21st century after all, and I'm my own woman. But somehow in my mind's eye, I saw myself as sweet and obliging, slow to anger and quick to forgive. In short, a delight to be with. Who was I fooling? (Actually, him, because that was the image of myself I had painted to him, pre-marriage.) Just 10 months into marriage and I'm afraid I'm turning into a Tiger Wife. Yup, that's the spousal equivalent of Amy Chua's infamous Tiger Mom.
Slowly and stealthily, I have drawn up a list of rules which I want him to live by. The list is growning by the day, but for now my edicts are: >No durian - unless I am eating it too.>Only one prata at a time - although it's okay if I eat two. >No chicken skin.>No duck skin.>No fatty pork bits.> No snacking in the kitchen when you come home because when you're tired and hungry, you'll pile on unnecessary calories by eating anything that's there.
>No preserved plums - only pregnant women eat sng buay.> No more ah boling, that sweet, starchy Chinese dumpling dessert you so like.>And finally, no motorbike - at least not until your daughter turns 21. I don't care that she's now only five.As you can tell, my rules - like that of Amy Chua's Tiger Mom's rules - are hinged on tough love. I want him to eliminate the fatty, salty and sweet bits in his diet because I want him to be healthy. I don't want him to ride a motorbike because it's unsafe. I don't want him to eat durians because it makes his breath stink. Besides, the fruit is very high in calories and I've always had a phobia that there is a link between eating too many durians and a stroke. That at least, was what happened to my late father. The problem is, I give him mixed signals. I want him to eat healthily, yet I'm an unhealthy eater myself. I don't like him to snack, yet I'm an incorrigible snacker. It's okay when I stuff myself but I get worked up when he does.
One recent Saturday night,we decided to go to Geylang for supper.We headed for the popular beef horfun stall, had a nice meal there, after which I announced that we should top it off by eating durians at a roadside stall nearby."Really? Durians?" he said, surprised as that's a fruit I rarely eat and he knows my views on it. Yes, I said, it'll be fun eating at a stall so late at night. Besides, I had a craving for it. It was a rare treat for both of us and I thought that that was that, then, no more durians for, say, one year. The next day, however, when I was still at work, he came home with a box of the fruit - and demolished all of it. The smell was lingering when I got back, and he confessed to it. I gave him my how-could-you look and embarked on my anti-durian tirade.
I said : You know it's so unhealthy for you, we just had it over the weekend, wasn't that enough, it's so smelly and fattening, do you want to put on weight and do you want to get a stroke? He said : But we ate it the other night. Anyway, I won that round because I told him that I simply can't tolerate stinky durian breath - which meant no goodnight kisses that night.Was I being unreasonable? Am I turning into that most reviled of household creatures, The Naggy Wife?
A friend told me that in all her eight years of marriage, she has never once questioned her husband on anything he ate. He's a grown man,she said, adding for good measure: Don't nag. Men hate that. Why can't I be more like her?Chilled and relaxed and non-controlling? It's not just his diet that can trigger me off, and he has learnt to read the signals - a sudden frostiness, a petulant twist of the mouth, a flash in the eyes. It happened again one morning when he was seized with the idea that we should check out the Tree Top Walk at MacRitchie. He'd gone there once before, loved it and wanted me to experience it.
It'll be too hot, I whined. He assured me that the forest trail was very shady.He was right. But what he hadn't told me was that it was 4.5km hike to the Tree Top, after which you walk another 1 km or so before making the 4.5km trek back. As noon approached, I got more and more bothered and irritated. Worse, I found out that his idea of a hike is to stroll together, admire the trees and take in the different smells. Mine is to burn as many calories as I can in the shortest time possible. I ended up walking way ahead of him. Why are you walking so slowly? I asked, turning around. A hike's meant to give your heart a workout. I added :Your cardio level isn't very good, is it? (Yes, it does sound like an unkind remark, but I was actually displaying tough love; I wanted to goad him to walk faster so he'll reap the cardio benefits.)
I suppose I behave the way I do because he lets me get away with it. I also want to see how far I can go in testing his patience and love. Mostly, though, I nag because I care for him and want what's good for him. I asked him the other day if he thought I was too bossy and fierce. No, he said, you're you. Besides, you're cute when you're cross. Oh, I said. It was hard to find a retort to that.But I still don't like you eating durians, I added, wanting the last word. But the durian is my favourite fruit, he reasoned. Unfavourite it then, I replied.At which point we looked at each other, amazed at the RIDICULOUSNESS of what I had just said, and burst out laughing. There's only so far a person can go before ferocity becomes just plain silly.And I guess so long as we both can see the funny side of my Tiger Wife antics, things are - and will be - ALL RIGHT. - Straits Times/ANN.
Slowly and stealthily, I have drawn up a list of rules which I want him to live by. The list is growning by the day, but for now my edicts are: >No durian - unless I am eating it too.>Only one prata at a time - although it's okay if I eat two. >No chicken skin.>No duck skin.>No fatty pork bits.> No snacking in the kitchen when you come home because when you're tired and hungry, you'll pile on unnecessary calories by eating anything that's there.
>No preserved plums - only pregnant women eat sng buay.> No more ah boling, that sweet, starchy Chinese dumpling dessert you so like.>And finally, no motorbike - at least not until your daughter turns 21. I don't care that she's now only five.As you can tell, my rules - like that of Amy Chua's Tiger Mom's rules - are hinged on tough love. I want him to eliminate the fatty, salty and sweet bits in his diet because I want him to be healthy. I don't want him to ride a motorbike because it's unsafe. I don't want him to eat durians because it makes his breath stink. Besides, the fruit is very high in calories and I've always had a phobia that there is a link between eating too many durians and a stroke. That at least, was what happened to my late father. The problem is, I give him mixed signals. I want him to eat healthily, yet I'm an unhealthy eater myself. I don't like him to snack, yet I'm an incorrigible snacker. It's okay when I stuff myself but I get worked up when he does.
One recent Saturday night,we decided to go to Geylang for supper.We headed for the popular beef horfun stall, had a nice meal there, after which I announced that we should top it off by eating durians at a roadside stall nearby."Really? Durians?" he said, surprised as that's a fruit I rarely eat and he knows my views on it. Yes, I said, it'll be fun eating at a stall so late at night. Besides, I had a craving for it. It was a rare treat for both of us and I thought that that was that, then, no more durians for, say, one year. The next day, however, when I was still at work, he came home with a box of the fruit - and demolished all of it. The smell was lingering when I got back, and he confessed to it. I gave him my how-could-you look and embarked on my anti-durian tirade.
I said : You know it's so unhealthy for you, we just had it over the weekend, wasn't that enough, it's so smelly and fattening, do you want to put on weight and do you want to get a stroke? He said : But we ate it the other night. Anyway, I won that round because I told him that I simply can't tolerate stinky durian breath - which meant no goodnight kisses that night.Was I being unreasonable? Am I turning into that most reviled of household creatures, The Naggy Wife?
A friend told me that in all her eight years of marriage, she has never once questioned her husband on anything he ate. He's a grown man,she said, adding for good measure: Don't nag. Men hate that. Why can't I be more like her?Chilled and relaxed and non-controlling? It's not just his diet that can trigger me off, and he has learnt to read the signals - a sudden frostiness, a petulant twist of the mouth, a flash in the eyes. It happened again one morning when he was seized with the idea that we should check out the Tree Top Walk at MacRitchie. He'd gone there once before, loved it and wanted me to experience it.
It'll be too hot, I whined. He assured me that the forest trail was very shady.He was right. But what he hadn't told me was that it was 4.5km hike to the Tree Top, after which you walk another 1 km or so before making the 4.5km trek back. As noon approached, I got more and more bothered and irritated. Worse, I found out that his idea of a hike is to stroll together, admire the trees and take in the different smells. Mine is to burn as many calories as I can in the shortest time possible. I ended up walking way ahead of him. Why are you walking so slowly? I asked, turning around. A hike's meant to give your heart a workout. I added :Your cardio level isn't very good, is it? (Yes, it does sound like an unkind remark, but I was actually displaying tough love; I wanted to goad him to walk faster so he'll reap the cardio benefits.)
I suppose I behave the way I do because he lets me get away with it. I also want to see how far I can go in testing his patience and love. Mostly, though, I nag because I care for him and want what's good for him. I asked him the other day if he thought I was too bossy and fierce. No, he said, you're you. Besides, you're cute when you're cross. Oh, I said. It was hard to find a retort to that.But I still don't like you eating durians, I added, wanting the last word. But the durian is my favourite fruit, he reasoned. Unfavourite it then, I replied.At which point we looked at each other, amazed at the RIDICULOUSNESS of what I had just said, and burst out laughing. There's only so far a person can go before ferocity becomes just plain silly.And I guess so long as we both can see the funny side of my Tiger Wife antics, things are - and will be - ALL RIGHT. - Straits Times/ANN.
NEW CLUB TO OFFER SEX LESSONS : Wives can take up classes to learn to serve husbands better in the bedroom.
RAWANG : Sex lessons to help wives "serve their husbands better than a first-class prostitute" will be among the classes provided by the OBEDIENT WIVES CLUB (OWC) to help promote harmonious marriages and counter social ills. It's vice-president Dr Rohaya Mohamad said it was time sexual prowess took a front seat in marriage, beyond that of the traditional "GOOD MOTHER OR GOOD COOK" roles.
"A good or religious wife should also be good in bed," she told reporters after the launch of the club's Malaysian chapter at a golf club here yesterday.She said a husband who was kept happy in the bedroom would have no reason to stray, seek out prostitutes or indulge in other social vices. "The family institution is protected and we can curb social ills like prostitution, domestic violence, human trafficking and abondoned babies," she said , adding that she believed these problems stemmed from UNFULFILLED SEXUAL NEEDS AT HOME.
Dr Rohaya, who previously served 15 years as a doctor in the Health Ministry, said the club would also offer counselling and lecture sessions for wives, husbands or couples. She said the Malaysian chapter had around 800 members while its chapter in Jordan had 200, adding that another in Indonesia was set to be launched on June 19 in Jakarta. Asked whether wives should remain obedient if their husbands still abused or cheated on them despite being "KEPT HAPPY" in the BEDROOM, Dr Rohaya said everyone was subject to God's rule."God has His ways and is fair to all. A husband is also subject to God's rule, meaning he can go to hell, too. But a woman must be a good wife to the end," she said, adding that according to Islam, women should pray, fast during Ramadan, protect their CHASTITY and obey their husbands if they wanted to enter heaven.
Dr Rohaya said the club was undaunted by public criticism, adding that she believed this was a "successful formula" to happy marriages.OBEDIENT WIVES CLUB and the Polygamy Club were formed by Global Ikhwan Sdn Bhd an organisation founded by former members of the banned Al-Arqam Islamic group.A mass wedding reception for eight couples was also held during the launch.
FACEBOOK GROUP SET UP TO COUNTER OBEDIENT WIVES CLUB.
PETALING JAYA : Facebook users have started a group called "WE DO NOT WANT SEXIST NONSENSE FROM GLOBAL IKHWAN SDN BHD" after reading about the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) launched by the organisation. Someone called Matthew Tard Ong wrote that he created the group as he believed both partners played a role in keeping a marriage healthy. As of 9:30 pm yesterday, 133 people had joined the group. The OWC, or Kelab Taat Suami, was launched yesterday. Its members strived to delight their husbands in almost every way.
OWC vice-president Dr Rohaya Mohamad said this included keeping husbands sexually satisfied so they would not turn to prostitutes or keep mistresses. A Muslim husband, who only wanted to be known by his first name Zul, said he did not agree with the message sent out by the club. "Yes,sex is important,but you can't say that it will curb social ills in such a sweeping manner.""There are other factors involved," said the 36-year-old technician. He said men tended to stray for psychological reasons that he himself did not fully understand. Men, he said, could cheat on their wives despite having a happy marriage. Sociologist and social activist Rohanna Ariffin suggested that OWC members read up on statistics by women's rights group and the police to find out the factors that caused domestic violence.
"Women shouldn't be women's worst enemy. Husbands have to take responsibility for their own behaviour," said Rohanna who is also a Parti Rakyat Malaysia central committee member. She stressed that it was wrong for women to take all the blame for men's weaknesses. However, Selayang Umno deputy chief Datuk Nasir Ibrahim said the club was extraordinary and unique. He said Selayang Umno fully supported the club as most problems had their roots at home. "There may be negative voices decrying this as male chauvinism but I don't see it that way. If the family institution is strong with good marital relations, it can help counter social ills," he said at the launch of the club yesterday.
"A good or religious wife should also be good in bed," she told reporters after the launch of the club's Malaysian chapter at a golf club here yesterday.She said a husband who was kept happy in the bedroom would have no reason to stray, seek out prostitutes or indulge in other social vices. "The family institution is protected and we can curb social ills like prostitution, domestic violence, human trafficking and abondoned babies," she said , adding that she believed these problems stemmed from UNFULFILLED SEXUAL NEEDS AT HOME.
Dr Rohaya, who previously served 15 years as a doctor in the Health Ministry, said the club would also offer counselling and lecture sessions for wives, husbands or couples. She said the Malaysian chapter had around 800 members while its chapter in Jordan had 200, adding that another in Indonesia was set to be launched on June 19 in Jakarta. Asked whether wives should remain obedient if their husbands still abused or cheated on them despite being "KEPT HAPPY" in the BEDROOM, Dr Rohaya said everyone was subject to God's rule."God has His ways and is fair to all. A husband is also subject to God's rule, meaning he can go to hell, too. But a woman must be a good wife to the end," she said, adding that according to Islam, women should pray, fast during Ramadan, protect their CHASTITY and obey their husbands if they wanted to enter heaven.
Dr Rohaya said the club was undaunted by public criticism, adding that she believed this was a "successful formula" to happy marriages.OBEDIENT WIVES CLUB and the Polygamy Club were formed by Global Ikhwan Sdn Bhd an organisation founded by former members of the banned Al-Arqam Islamic group.A mass wedding reception for eight couples was also held during the launch.
FACEBOOK GROUP SET UP TO COUNTER OBEDIENT WIVES CLUB.
PETALING JAYA : Facebook users have started a group called "WE DO NOT WANT SEXIST NONSENSE FROM GLOBAL IKHWAN SDN BHD" after reading about the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) launched by the organisation. Someone called Matthew Tard Ong wrote that he created the group as he believed both partners played a role in keeping a marriage healthy. As of 9:30 pm yesterday, 133 people had joined the group. The OWC, or Kelab Taat Suami, was launched yesterday. Its members strived to delight their husbands in almost every way.
OWC vice-president Dr Rohaya Mohamad said this included keeping husbands sexually satisfied so they would not turn to prostitutes or keep mistresses. A Muslim husband, who only wanted to be known by his first name Zul, said he did not agree with the message sent out by the club. "Yes,sex is important,but you can't say that it will curb social ills in such a sweeping manner.""There are other factors involved," said the 36-year-old technician. He said men tended to stray for psychological reasons that he himself did not fully understand. Men, he said, could cheat on their wives despite having a happy marriage. Sociologist and social activist Rohanna Ariffin suggested that OWC members read up on statistics by women's rights group and the police to find out the factors that caused domestic violence.
"Women shouldn't be women's worst enemy. Husbands have to take responsibility for their own behaviour," said Rohanna who is also a Parti Rakyat Malaysia central committee member. She stressed that it was wrong for women to take all the blame for men's weaknesses. However, Selayang Umno deputy chief Datuk Nasir Ibrahim said the club was extraordinary and unique. He said Selayang Umno fully supported the club as most problems had their roots at home. "There may be negative voices decrying this as male chauvinism but I don't see it that way. If the family institution is strong with good marital relations, it can help counter social ills," he said at the launch of the club yesterday.
Friday, 3 June 2011
MY HUSBAND, MY MASTER~Social ills caused by disobedient wives,say Obedient Wives Club.
PETALING JAYA: Obey, serve and entertain your husband - that's the KEY MESSAGE to WIVES by a club which focus on how to reduce social ills committed by husbands.The Obedient Wives Club, to be launched today,will provide tips to wives on ways to keep their husband contented. Its spokesman Siti Maznah Mohd Taufik said MANY SOCIAL ILLS were caused by disobedient wives who did not bring joy to their husbands. "Domestic abuse happens because wives don't obey their husband. He must be responsible for his wife's well-being but she must listen to him," she told The Star.
Siti Maznah, a 48-year-old mother of fivc, stressed that husbands would not visit prostitutes if wives gave them a satisfying sex life. "Wives should welcome them with sexy clothes and alluring smiles in the privacy of their homes," she said. On whether it was the wife's fault if she was abused, Siti Maznah replied: "Yes, most probably because she didn't listen to her husband." Global Ikhwan, an organisation founded by former members of the banned Al-Arqam Islamic group,is behind the formation of the club. It had also launched the Ikhwan Polygamy Club two years ago. Siti Maznah said she treated her husband's first wife like her elder sister.
"Altogether we have 16 children in our household. But my husband is a happy man, you can see it from his actions," she added. She said the Ikhwan Polygamy Club had over 1,000 members comprising husbands and wives. The average number of children per polygamous household ranged from four to 26. Women, Family and Community Development Minister Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil, in an immediate reaction, said she was saddened by the development, adding that it did not reflect the vast progress made by local Muslim womenfolk.
"Unfortunately even today,there are still many Muslim women who are ignorant of their rights or culturally inhibited to exercise their rights in full," she said. Sisters in Islam acting executive director Ratna Osman said Islam advocated marriages based on mutual cooperation and respect. "Abusive men often use women's behaviour as a sick justification but in the end, their actions are their responsibility," she said.
Siti Maznah, a 48-year-old mother of fivc, stressed that husbands would not visit prostitutes if wives gave them a satisfying sex life. "Wives should welcome them with sexy clothes and alluring smiles in the privacy of their homes," she said. On whether it was the wife's fault if she was abused, Siti Maznah replied: "Yes, most probably because she didn't listen to her husband." Global Ikhwan, an organisation founded by former members of the banned Al-Arqam Islamic group,is behind the formation of the club. It had also launched the Ikhwan Polygamy Club two years ago. Siti Maznah said she treated her husband's first wife like her elder sister.
"Altogether we have 16 children in our household. But my husband is a happy man, you can see it from his actions," she added. She said the Ikhwan Polygamy Club had over 1,000 members comprising husbands and wives. The average number of children per polygamous household ranged from four to 26. Women, Family and Community Development Minister Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil, in an immediate reaction, said she was saddened by the development, adding that it did not reflect the vast progress made by local Muslim womenfolk.
"Unfortunately even today,there are still many Muslim women who are ignorant of their rights or culturally inhibited to exercise their rights in full," she said. Sisters in Islam acting executive director Ratna Osman said Islam advocated marriages based on mutual cooperation and respect. "Abusive men often use women's behaviour as a sick justification but in the end, their actions are their responsibility," she said.
Wednesday, 1 June 2011
I'VE FOUND A BUTLER ~ MY MOTHER!!!!!
This is my fantasy. To have a Butler, to have the net, to be able to Surf, and to use the internet being well Paid!!!!!
Thanks and I had praised the Lord!
Hi, it's nice to meet you!
Life is full of FUN and LAUGHTER! It's supposed to be this way. After a life-long accomplishment, I felt like I wanted to FLY. And fly is that I did. I grew a pair of wings and I flew across the sky. Across the internet. All I ever wanted was to be HAPPY and on TOP OF THE WORLD. Adioos, I am in on it! My love and my God! I learnt to depend on myself. I learnt to count on myself. And I learnt to love. Most of all. The world is SO constipated of LOVE. Everyone's choking and insufficient of it! Learn to Love and learn to fly. FOREVER......My Love for you and for God.
CONTEMPLATION OF MYSELF!
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